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John Waffletord · Oct 11, 2005, 01:08 PM // 13:08

Seriously dude, meeting a girl on the internet is not the way to do it.

BTW, you're = you are

Witchblade · Oct 11, 2005, 01:13 PM // 13:13

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Originally Posted by John Waffletord

Seriously dude, meeting a girl on the internet is not the way to do it.

BTW, you're = you are

yup he is right .. but i think there are exceptions too ...

2things:

-i know a few number of persons who did it that way and it worked fine ... i m pretty amazed myself seeing em ^^

-can u realise that there are ppl that dont have any other possibilities? there can be many reasons to that...

So, now my idea about this changed from "lol" to "why not"

Mistress Eyahl · Oct 11, 2005, 01:40 PM // 13:40

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Originally Posted by Witchblade

-can u realise that there are ppl that dont have any other possibilities? there can be many reasons to that...

So, now my idea about this changed from "lol" to "why not"

Good post.

I hate ignorant people who, just because they don't like it/do it/want it, they think it's wrong.

News flash, wtf makes you so RIGHT?

John Waffletord · Oct 11, 2005, 01:50 PM // 13:50

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Originally Posted by Mistress Eyahl

Good post.

I hate ignorant people who, just because they don't like it/do it/want it, they think it's wrong.

News flash, wtf makes you so RIGHT?

Ignorant? Hardly, when i was younger (14 or 15, im 19 now), i didnt have any friends and i spent all of my time online. I've been there, and its not worth getting your hopes up.

Its not that its 'wrong' in a sense, its just that everything is so far-fetched. You're hundreds or thousands of miles away from a person who you've only met through the exchanging of text online or phone conversations. You have no idea what that person is like in real life. Not to mention that person could be lying about a million different things. Long-distance relationships are hard enough when you've actually met the person in real life.

I'd also like to know the reasons for these people who "don't have any other possibilities"

Mistress Eyahl · Oct 11, 2005, 01:57 PM // 13:57

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Originally Posted by John Waffletord

Ignorant? Hardly, when i was younger (14 or 15, im 19 now), i didnt have any friends and i spent all of my time online. I've been there, and its not worth getting your hopes up.

Its not that its 'wrong' in a sense, its just that everything is so far-fetched. You're hundreds or thousands of miles away from a person who you've only met through the exchanging of text online or phone conversations. You have no idea what that person is like in real life. Not to mention that person could be lying about a million different things. Long-distance relationships are hard enough when you've actually met the person in real life.

I hate people like this... SO so bad

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Originally Posted by John Waffletord

I'd also like to know the reasons for these people who "don't have any other possibilities"

..especially this, this is where the ignorance comes in. You really have NO idea what those reasons might be? I mean, you can't think of ANYthing?

Wow, lol... enough said

John Waffletord · Oct 11, 2005, 02:03 PM // 14:03

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Originally Posted by Mistress Eyahl

I hate people like this... SO so bad

..especially this, this is where the ignorance comes in. You really have NO idea what those reasons might be? I mean, you can't think of ANYthing?

Wow, lol... enough said

I can think of people feeling sorry for themselves and they think theres no other way to do it. There internet hasnt been around that long though, so how did those people do it before then?

So you're saying you hate me because I expressed my opinion? Call it ignorance all you want, I'd call it common sense. You can go back to your own little world anytime now.

LeftAlone- · Oct 11, 2005, 02:44 PM // 14:44

Ok Ok... calm down people. Keep this in order before it completely blows up

@ Mistress.
Gosh.. Thats pretty

Im really happy things turned out like that for you. Really amazing.

Mistress Eyahl · Oct 11, 2005, 02:47 PM // 14:47

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Originally Posted by John Waffletord

I can think of people feeling sorry for themselves and they think theres no other way to do it. There internet hasnt been around that long though, so how did those people do it before then?

So you're saying you hate me because I expressed my opinion? Call it ignorance all you want, I'd call it common sense. You can go back to your own little world anytime now.

How about housebound people?
How about shy people?
How about self concious people?
How about people who don't think much of their looks and find it hard to meet people through physical attraction?

List is endless, don't be so narrow minded.

And yeah I dislike people with your sort of opinions much the same way people may dislike me for my opinions. There's no need to be childish with the whole "Little world" thing.. there's nothing wrong with people not getting along.

LeftAlone- · Oct 11, 2005, 02:47 PM // 14:47

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Originally Posted by John Waffletord

Seriously dude, meeting a girl on the internet is not the way to do it.

But it sure is a possibility that can turn out better than you would ever hope/imagine.
Why not just give it a go and see how it goes?

LeftAlone- · Oct 11, 2005, 02:56 PM // 14:56

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Originally Posted by Mistress Eyahl

How about housebound people?
How about shy people?
How about self concious people?
How about people who don't think much of their looks and find it hard to meet people through physical attraction?

List is endless, don't be so narrow minded.

Great points.
True enough, that just is the case for some people. Probably for more than even anyone of us can imagine.

In my case its just that after living here for 13 years,.. well.. 14 in 3 months, from all the many girls I've met, I havent met a single one that I could imagine loving.
Ofcourse I've had crushes on ppl when I was like 13-15.. it just is like that.. But now that im almost 18, I see that none of those girls were actually the kind I would truly be able to love.
And naturally.. when you meet a person online with whom you seem to have so many things to talk about.. things to share.. open conversations etc.. It just makes you really like that person.. I don't think it is wise to just let it be...to just throw it all away becaus its over internet. And especially in my case, that I've planned to go to UK after I graduate from Highschool...
I've met this person...I really like her a lot. Ofcourse, I can't say I know her completely, or even that much, but from what I know so far, she is very much the kind of a person with whom I could feel happy and in love.... and I actually get to see her in two(ish) years.. Probably even sooner becaus Im planning to go for a summerjob to London.

Its just this feeling in the bottom of my belly.. A feeling I think is worth going after.

John Waffletord · Oct 11, 2005, 03:07 PM // 15:07

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Originally Posted by Mistress Eyahl

How about housebound people?

Housebound people, what do you mean, people on house arrest or people too lazy to leave?

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Originally Posted by Mistress Eyahl

How about shy people?

I know plenty of shy people who have real-life signifigant others. Do you seriously think just because they're shy they must find love on the internet?

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How about self concious people?

I know plenty of self-concious people who have real-life signifigant others too.. Isnt everyone a little self-concious? Thats just something you need to get over as you mature, and realize someone is going to love you for who you are, no matter what that is.

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Originally Posted by Mistress Eyahl

How about people who don't think much of their looks and find it hard to meet people through physical attraction?

There is more to love than physical attractions.

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Originally Posted by Mistress Eyahl

List is endless, don't be so narrow minded.

It looks like you're the narrow minded person here, just because you think that if someone has something wrong with them, they dont have a chance to find love in real life and they must find it online.

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Originally Posted by Mistress Eyahl

And yeah I dislike people with your sort of opinions much the same way people may dislike me for my opinions. There's no need to be childish with the whole "Little world" thing.. there's nothing wrong with people not getting along.

I don't dislike people for their opinions. Everyone has a right to think how they want, and i don't agree with it, who cares.

John Waffletord · Oct 11, 2005, 03:12 PM // 15:12

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Originally Posted by LeftAlone-

Great points.
True enough, that just is the case for some people. Probably for more than even anyone of us can imagine.

In my case its just that after living here for 13 years,.. well.. 14 in 3 months, from all the many girls I've met, I havent met a single one that I could imagine loving.
Ofcourse I've had crushes on ppl when I was like 13-15.. it just is like that.. But now that im almost 18, I see that none of those girls were actually the kind I would truly be able to love.
And naturally.. when you meet a person online with whom you seem to have so many things to talk about.. things to share.. open conversations etc.. It just makes you really like that person.. I don't think it is wise to just let it be...to just throw it all away becaus its over internet. And especially in my case, that I've planned to go to UK after I graduate from Highschool...
I've met this person...I really like her a lot. Ofcourse, I can't say I know her completely, or even that much, but from what I know so far, she is very much the kind of a person with whom I could feel happy and in love.... and I actually get to see her in two(ish) years.. Probably even sooner becaus Im planning to go for a summerjob to London.

Its just this feeling in the bottom of my belly.. A feeling I think is worth going after.

Let me tell you something about love.. Its decieving.. It can trick you into thinking this girl is the only girl for you, and that you're going to meet her and fall in love with her and be happy forever. Things that actually happen like that are few and far between. Everyone seems to be stuck in some sort of fairytale mentality, where everything is going to work out and you two are going to be perfect for each other, and without her you would just die. I know you won't litsen to me, because you will think that im not telling the truth, and its different with you, and, you two are something special, not just another waste of time.

wsmcasey · Oct 11, 2005, 03:32 PM // 15:32

To the original poster.

Hey, I think it's cool that you found a girl that you really like. Do I think you should plan your life around her before getting to know her in person? Hell no! Everyone dreams of finding their soulmate, but it very rarely ever happens. I'm sure this girl is cute and nice, but there are many facets to her personality that she's not showing you. Often times you don't get to see a persons true colors until they are put under stress, and at that point it can be too late for you. Of course everything is great right now, you play games together, chat over the internet, and share your hopes and dream. This is a great recipe for love and marriage, but it's like trying to make beef stew without the beef.

Get some money and take a trip to meet her. If you still have the same feelings after spending some time with her, then make a choice. Life is all about choices, try and make the right ones.

Old Dood · Oct 11, 2005, 03:33 PM // 15:33

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Originally Posted by John Waffletord

Let me tell you something about love.. Its decieving.. It can trick you into thinking this girl is the only girl for you, and that you're going to meet her and fall in love with her and be happy forever.

I look at that as Lust, not Love. Love is a learning processes. My wife and I thought we were in love way back in the beginning. We were attracted to each other, we cared for one another, etc. We were not truly in love. That came later after we lived together. We came to realize that we fell more and more in love after time went on. Most relationships end because people do not realize that it takes hard work in order to love another.

Mistress Eyahl · Oct 11, 2005, 03:35 PM // 15:35

My reason for preferring to meet guys via the internet is you CAN get to know someone better.

- No inhibitions, no worry about what you look like, where you are, what you're doing.
- It's more relaxed.. no such thing as an uncomfortable silence on the internet.

I know people say you can't trust people over the net, and a lot you can't.. but when someone logs in to chat to you every day for weeks and weeks and months and months with no word of actually getting together or anything, then you can be pretty positive they're just after you for your conversation.

Long distance.. not too great. But there's nothing wrong with meeting people THROUGH the internet. It's allowed me to be best mates with the guys I've met beforehand.. brilliant feeling that comfortable with someone.

End of the day, some people couldn't do it. My mate can't, her main appeal isn't her conversational skills. I see nothing wrong in the fact I can do ONE more thing others can't.

John Waffletord · Oct 11, 2005, 03:56 PM // 15:56

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Originally Posted by Old Warrior Dood

I look at that as Lust, not Love. Love is a learning processes. My wife and I thought we were in love way back in the beginning. We were attracted to each other, we cared for one another, etc. We were not truly in love. That came later after we lived together. We came to realize that we fell more and more in love after time went on. Most relationships end because people do not realize that it takes hard work in order to love another.

Absolutely correct, but, people often misinterpret lust for love.

John Waffletord · Oct 11, 2005, 04:07 PM // 16:07

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Originally Posted by Mistress Eyahl

My reason for preferring to meet guys via the internet is you CAN get to know someone better.

- No inhibitions, no worry about what you look like, where you are, what you're doing.
- It's more relaxed.. no such thing as an uncomfortable silence on the internet.

I know people say you can't trust people over the net, and a lot you can't.. but when someone logs in to chat to you every day for weeks and weeks and months and months with no word of actually getting together or anything, then you can be pretty positive they're just after you for your conversation.

Long distance.. not too great. But there's nothing wrong with meeting people THROUGH the internet. It's allowed me to be best mates with the guys I've met beforehand.. brilliant feeling that comfortable with someone.

End of the day, some people couldn't do it. My mate can't, her main appeal isn't her conversational skills. I see nothing wrong in the fact I can do ONE more thing others can't.

There is nothing wrong with doing it at all. There are just better ways. If you can find someone that lives near you, and just get to know them for a little while first on the internet, then thats cool.

But meeting a person in a different country, or far away in your country, its just not likely that anything will happen from it.

Count Feanor · Oct 11, 2005, 04:34 PM // 16:34

Great stories. Thanks for sharing.

LeftAlone- · Oct 11, 2005, 04:55 PM // 16:55

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Originally Posted by John Waffletord

Let me tell you something about love.. Its decieving.. It can trick you into thinking this girl is the only girl for you, and that you're going to meet her and fall in love with her and be happy forever. Things that actually happen like that are few and far between. Everyone seems to be stuck in some sort of fairytale mentality, where everything is going to work out and you two are going to be perfect for each other, and without her you would just die. I know you won't litsen to me, because you will think that im not telling the truth, and its different with you, and, you two are something special, not just another waste of time.

And have I ever said that I know her and all her aspects completely? No.
But I do still feel warm towards her, and I say its totally worth giving it a try. Nothing to lose.

And as you said... there are many ways for people to find love outside the internet, and ofcourse, thats an obvious fact.

For some people it just isnt that easy.
Maybe you are very outgoing and find it easy to just go out to some bar, meet a girl and fall in love.. For me its not.
I can't just go somewhere, meet a bunch of new ppl etc.. It just doesn't work.. + I don't like meeting all that many finns.... for reasons you can find on previous pages.
And from all the many girls I've met, I don't like a single one of them... Why not have your eyes open to possibilities like such as people over internet?
And its not like I went on the internet to 'find' love. It just happend.. I met this person.. got to know her a bit better after playing with her/conversating on msn over the last 2½ months.. and.. now Im where I am.

There really is no point for your way of taking part in this conversation if you can't realise the fact that not everyone is like you, thinks like you, and acts like you.

@ the other person whos name I forgot..
I don't plan my future around her.
My plans already were to go to UK after I graduate from highschool, and Jennifer just happens to be there too whitch is a big plus.
That has given me quite a bit of motivation to study better than I have been lately...
Im really happy I've met her, and if it doesn't work.. well... then it doesn't, but it sure will be an experience I would not want to not-have.

Witchblade · Oct 11, 2005, 05:16 PM // 17:16

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Originally Posted by John Waffletord

There is nothing wrong with doing it at all. There are just better ways. If you can find someone that lives near you, and just get to know them for a little while first on the internet, then thats cool.

Well, if we follow ur idea here .... ppl should only be interested in ppl living near em ... ? I ve always thought that distance isnt important...i know some ppl who did this for a while, with 200-300 as ex kms between em..and finally one moved

OK that's not pretty common...I mean that, and i m sure of it by reading yer posts here.. u ARE the narrow minded here...u cant accept other possibilities, exceptions, luck..and lotsa things like that. Because u know , there are ppl who have luck..some just dont :/

@Eyahl: i agree with most of the things u said

i put myself in the "not possible" category :/ i ve everything women dislikes ..so it's quite hard ^^
It's just bad luck... u want a funny one?

even on the net i cant do a thing, i gave it a few tries ... forget it ^^